Barely 40: Chatting Bras And Panties With My Stepdaughter

Jacqueline Wells

Chatting Bras With Stepdaughter
Stephanie is a forty-something free spirit who believes “older and wiser” doesn’t have to mean “boring and unadventurous.”

When I started writing this blog, I knew I would want to get other perspectives on bras, panties, lingerie, you know, the fun stuff ladies shop for and wear every day.

I was chatting with my 22 year old stepdaughter last night about the posts I’m writing, and it got me thinking about the first time I met her. She was a mousey, awkward, geeky 15-year-old girl: the polar opposite of me, but with potential. Because high school is such a sensitive time for young girls, I sat back and waited for her to come to me with styling questions.
Her junior prom was coming up and she took the initiative to ask a boy to go with her just as friends. I was so proud! My assertiveness must have rubbed off on her. She was all set with a new pretty dress and shoes. The next step was hair and makeup. When I asked what she was going to do, she gave me a puzzled look. I suggested taking her to my stylist and she loved that idea! The night before prom, she came to me for makeup tips. This was it; we were bonding.


Now she’s 22 and has matured into a lovely young lady getting ready to graduate from college. She’s home from college, and like every mom of a soon-to-be college grad, I would do some of her laundry. As I was pulling things from the dryer, I noticed her bras in there. Cardinal Rule #1 for intimates, DO NOT put them in the dryer! After the initial shock of being in the dryer, I took notice of the style/quality. Ugly would be the first word to come to mind, and then too small. Also, nothing matched! Sigh, what have I done?

I walked out to the living room where she was and asked, “What is this?” Surprised to see me standing there with her bra in my hand, she sheepishly replies, “my bra.” I’ve noticed she spills out of some of her blouses and I suspect the bra is the culprit, so I said, “This can’t fit you!” My next question to her was, “Have you ever been fitted for a bra?” Guess what her answer was… NO. Surprised? Me neither.

Her birthday is coming up and I can’t think of a more perfect time to take her shopping for some properly fitted bras. Plus, we’ll celebrate her birthday and the beginning of new intimates with a huge piece of chocolate cake! I’ll have her lifted, separated, and matching before she hits the books next week.

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